Ok so with the popularity of the Real Housewives shows, and the new one Basketball Wives, I have constantly been having conversations with people whether these women are gold diggers or just trying to make it and find love. Then I read this article in Essence magazine that actually listed a website where you can sign up to get a sponsor. So let’s talk about it.
Everyone has a type right? For instance, I like really tall, basketball types, with bald heads, or rocker boys (they still have to be tall). I have a friend who will not date any guy who doesn’t have style because she is a designer and has a rep to keep up in LA. Maybe being rich is just part of the type these women like. Also, what is wrong with wanting someone to take care of you and spoil you?
I know I know, you are thinking they are targeting men because of their money, but the guys are the same way. For instance, there is a girl on Basketball Wives, who I think is gorgeous. She is a beautiful brown skinned girl with light eyes, she is smart and educated. Well she is married to a basketball player who makes evolution look very possible, as he must be descended from a gorilla. He even speaks gorilla/monkey. Seriously, when he is on the show, they have sub titles. Now do you really think he could EVER get a girl like that without telling them up front he is a pro ball player? I think not.
So no, I don’t think they are gold diggers. They just know the score. If you want to live the good life, you better make it happen on your own, or be extremely hot, and go after someone who can give it to you. Because these guys wont even look at you, unless you are a 10. So it goes both ways.
Now in the magazine article, there was some disturbing things like the men expected you to have sex with them on command and be readily available whenever they wanted, and I don’t agree with that. Being a good partner, and keeping up your end of the bargain, which is to basically make them look good should be enough. Otherwise, you are being paid for and that’s not cool. And the men cheating thing isn’t cool either, but if he has a rep and you go for him anyway, be smart and get a pre-nup or an arranged settlement up front so you can still live the fab life. What do you think? Leave me a comment. -Ky.
Alright, do I consider them gold diggers? Yes, but there is a difference, and here is why. Lets start with the baller so (old money) vs the groupie (new or no money) relationship, so first off the baller has assume that unless they themselves pursued the groupie, that this interaction however long it may be is about the money, in fact I don’t care how much of an actual fan the groupie is you don’t truly know and love a person till you can meet and talk for some time (amount may vary) so with that said I think the baller should walk around with a contract and have groupies sign it, stating what this is, and what is expected.
as far as cheating goes, well in the same scenario there is no such term (cheating nor partner), let’s be serious if there is a you, there is another you in another city. I’ll say it again unless the old money sought you out. It won’t count, if you showed up a the show, or game got noticed and let old money smash then play hard to get. It can go both ways man and woman but in both cases it’s the same story. And lastly is not one of the Basketball Wives not even a wife what’s up with that? -Vonte