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New Resolutions Plus The 2014 Wrap Up

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So here we are at that time when so many makes decisions resolutions on what they will do this year. So here is what I’ve decided my resolution this year is just to do better, only for myself and not that I have done anything to let myself down. This year has been slightly rough but through it all I’ve kept my head up I just want to do more and continue every following year to repeat that and in turn so better.

Enough about me I want to sum up this year as it relates topics I’ve ranted about, so here goes: Jeremy Scott needs to stop he’s ridiculous it stopped being cute after the first teddy bear/flinstone/pair of wings, just stop yo. Robin Thicke lost Paula Patton and I asked you to tell me how exactly he was the bad guy Paula’s fine has has to kiss on a lot of leading men in movies some sex scenes and all. What would that do to your marriage? How emasculating is that? How many of you could be with someone who has a career like that? So still talking celebs sorry to tell you JLo is not the original booty, I will not be mad at Macklemore or Iggy Azaela for stealing Hip Hop it’s still better than listening to Young Thug, and French Montana in fact be mad at media let’s walk outside radio stations until they bring back real music and stop making my Nieces want to twerk something (no offense to the strippers out there I love yall. And this doesn’t actually apply to my nieces they are all going to be great women but you get my point) Ray Rice.. Well he went there in the worst way the NFL excused it at first but why should I? He knocked his girl out like she was a man then Married her months later, that’s not excusable as man. And as a woman I am so disappointed she didn’t leave, (Momma was like, “Baby now, I hate to see your tears/But I been with your daddy for bout 35 years/And in my day, I had to turn a blind eye to cheatin/But I ain’t never had to wear no black eyes from beatings. -Little Brother breaking my heart) in a world where we are beginning to have no chill button at least find self worth.

Dan Snider refuses to change the team name and while this fight in what it is related to doesn’t directly affect me if a small group of people are offended by the name then it should change its been done before in this same damn city the Bullets’ are now the Wizards and while we’re talking racism and all around respect for women how about that Donald Sterling?

We had these ridiculous challenges and I say that speaking on the pass out and all the others that could kill our children that are passed around social media you know what can save your children whoppings’ parenting in general and I’m not telling you to go the point of abuse but control you kids, and stop sharing that shit your making it worse. Lastly on the topic of challenges and social media over 4 million was raised for ACLS.. You people did understand that if you donated you didn’t have to do the ice bucket. And wow so where is the effort to raise money to get drugs off the street real drugs not weed (sorry)? Find a cure for Aids? Or get the youth off the streets to name a few topics. We found a cure for Ebola.. after it hit the U.S. and it was so over covered (or at least found a way too), so, we did that America.

And last as we ended the year, black men had there worst year ever as it comes do our lives matter by some methods they have apprehended the Boston bomber and what over half a dozen other non-blacks who have committed heinous crimes and mass murder that did not end their own lives, yet unarmed black males of all ages can be assassinated buy local police and not face charges (that cop in the Michael Brown cases described a bear attack). Black people we’re moving backwards and I’m sorry to say it. Our kids are out of control, our music is mindless, and all that is cool is being “ratchet”. That’s not to say that others here in this country don’t have issues, it’s everything to say that we have to do better, and then expect better. Travis Smiley sit your Uncle Tom ass down, and black folks remember the president isn’t your Mayor, Governor, or your senator, he wasn’t elected the new Al Sharpton or Jessie Jackson he can’t just go off on idiocy in America what’s he’s done so far is more than he has even had to on those topics. Hell the president can barely make decisions on his on and yet gas prices are lower than they have been in some time universal health care is available for all, a war has ended a manhunt over and all with major blatant disrespect from other elected officials. (I may rip politics a new one another day) feel how you want about how I feel just do better people. It is tough all over the world but we have the best free land out there let’s get over ourselves together and fcuking do better. (Btw my name is Levonte and I am dyslexic but very talented I deserve to be famous) -Vonte

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That’s Fine Janay I’m Over it

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I’m listening to the latest parts of this Janay Rice interview with Matt Lauer, who asked some good questions, and after hearing her speak more about it I am so over it. Sadly I’m over Domestic Violence as a whole now, don’t bother telling me about it. Let me say some of the issues I have with this and then move on. First she is still trying to bury the situation almost like it is not DV, this is one of my biggest beefs with the situation mainly because for most women to understand they have to leave that type of situation someone else has to tell them.

She admits she is still refusing to see the second part of the video which is the elevator video, so in case your unfamiliar it is when he spat in her face knocks her ass out, then half assed dragged her by one foot partially out the elevator. Damn! right? I just wrote it and it sounds graphic? So you can tell me it’s not him, tell me it’s for your family, and tell me you were both intoxicated. I and many men I know have never done anything like that to a woman, so to those people I speak of its not them, but he did that. That’s him. It would have been better in my opinion if she just never said anything at all. Just don’t speak up. Because it is just making excuses for it as many others going through something similar. And so I am over it all of it. We can’t shame the victim and we won’t find out of it happens again hell they practically buried this incident (till somebody missed a payment or someone new saw a come up). I believe in respecting people’s feelings and at most times being politically correct but how in doing so do I not turn my back on domestic violence? I’ll mind my business next time he knocks your ass out and for right now do the same for all. And people say New Yorkers are rude, we just mind our own business.

Respect to her mom, Candy Palmer kind of kept it real with her statements but I feel she also has to respect her daughters wishes on this one. -Vonte

Alright Let Me At It

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Before I start this off I want you to understand I’m going to touch on a few different subjects just understand there is a purpose and it all comes together. I won’t speak about Ray Rice (per say) he is getting some or all of what he deserves, I overheard talk of his wife and victim shaming. Let me make this clear I don’t believe a man should hit a woman and I Don’t know this family what happens and how often so I will just speak on domestic violence and victim shaming in this case. I make no apologies for what I am about to say. Why not? Why not shame Janay Rice? Let’s speak on what we know clearly, regardless of what happened before, how much they drank before video captures them Ray spat at her according to newly released info twice, (I had wondered what that motion was in the hallway and elevator) then hit her so hard she loses her balance only to hit her head on a handrail in elevator, which blow was worse? Was she out before the handrail? at the time they were only engaged and a month later married. Say what you want, there were talks about money and his football career. To be clear again no woman or (man in Lionel Ritchie’s case) should stay in an environment like that maybe if more people around them, had shamed Janay we wouldn’t be having the most unfair part of this conversation she laid lifeless on the floor, he unsuccessfully dragged her out of the the way of the door, and going just off what I saw it seemed like when that door first opened he tried to get away but was caught. Domestic violence has the same meaning wether it happens once or repeatedly and you can’t stay.

I want to talk about what Whoopi said and I thank her for being real as a woman and saying it cause a man never should. “I just said, don’t anybody hit anybody,” she said. “But If you make the choice as a woman, who’s four foot three, and you decide to hit a guy who’s six feet tall and you’re the last thing he wants to deal with that day and he hits you back, you cannot be surprised!” I can say till I’m blue in the face that I will never hit a woman. But I haven’t yet been hit by one, and what happens if that woman can knuckle up and gets me good? Don’t I deserve to defend myself?, protect myself? What do you tell your children to do if they are hit at school? I don’t know what I would truly do, do you?

Walking into a Burger King yesterday I stumbled upon a show with Montel Williams having a round table style discussion and topic of Ray Rice and how the NFL mishandled the situation came up and Montel made me realize something that should be so clear. today we are shunning the NFL and Roger Gidell but Ray is not the first I believe he said there are 65 cases in the NfL of DV, and he stated that some may be numb to this type of violence, he said to look at shows like the real housewives, Jersey shore, and other reality shows advertise and bank on violence, man on woman violence in the case of Snooki and Jersey Shore, and woman on woman or man in the other shows and no one is calling for those to be taken off he said they use it violence as a reason for some of you to tune in.

Damn I don’t even know what’s right anymore. I’ll say as man I don’t feel bad for Ray or Janay, neither can take back what happened and the only reason it’s public is because it was on tape, so I hope staying together for the family pans out for the two of them. Whoopi is so right don’t anyone hit anyone and not expect to be hit back, how about we start there. And Montel made me realize we are many of us some kind of Hippocrates what’s acceptable for some is taboo for others what kind of a society have we become?. -Vonte